The HP Way: We provide help
We work with a child on an ongoing basis to gain mastery of feelings and worries – rather than trying to suppress them – to support fruitful development and a lifetime of emotional wellbeing.
Sometimes this work is straightforward – like when a child experiences a sudden feeling of missing mommy during the school day.
Other times it’s more complex, such as when a child’s parents are getting divorced, or someone in the family has a long-term or life-threatening illness.
The HP Way finds the right approach for each individual. This often means working with the child and parents together. It also recognizes that some problems can’t be “solved” – instead focusing on helping each family member to understand the many ways he or she may be affected.
When people face challenges they would prefer to ignore, The HP Way addresses these directly, allowing children to integrate them to support fruitful development and a lifetime of emotional wellbeing.
A teacher relays a story from the classroom:
Brian was a student in our preschool. The first time he tried to draw a picture of a himeself, there was a lot of screaming and yelling. He cried and said, “I can’t breathe! I can’t breathe!” I told him that I could sit next to him and help him with my words, but that I would not draw for him. I talked to him about how he could make a circle for the face and two smaller circles for the eyes. He used his own ideas for the nose and mouth. When he struggled to draw a shirt, he threw himself on the floor and cried, begging me to do it. But then he picked himself up and I suggested making a square for the shirt. He did that, and then drew two lines for arms and two lines for legs. He was satisfied with the picture he had made all by himself.
Then he was able to use his new drawing skill to help his mother understand his feelings. He drew a picture of himself and his younger sister. In the picture, his sister completely covered him. “She is covering my face,” he said.
When I showed the picture to Mrs. L., she said, “I guess he could mean she blocks him out.” Mrs. L was then able to talk with Brian about his feelings about his sister. Mrs. L. had worked hard to help Brian with his feelings, but this opened a new door for them. Now he could say to her: “I had angry feelings about you and I drew a picture.” Then they would talk about it.
At times it was hard for her to acknowledge how Brian felt. Sometimes she cried. Sometimes they both cried.