Behavior is how young children communicate

tantrum_imagerymajestic_freedigitalphotosWhen young children misbehave, it’s not because they want to act badly; it’s because they’re having a strong feeling of some kind, and don’t yet have the skill or vocabulary to express it in words.

In that context, rather than discipline or punishment, a helpful adult will work with the child to understand the feeling and find a better way to deal with it.

Here’s an excerpt from a webcast of Hanna Perkins Therapist Deborah Paris, LISW, BCD, on the important concept of behavior as a form of communication – and the important developmental step of learning to give words to feelings.

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What ‘child development’ means to those who study it

An excerpt from one of our previous webcasts of Hanna Perkins Therapist Deborah Paris, LISW, BCD, on what the experts mean when they talk about “child development.”

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Handling separation when young children first go to school

An excerpt from one of our previous webcasts of Hanna Perkins Therapist Deborah Paris, LISW, BCD, discussing the separation difficulty that most young children experience when they begin programs that require separation from parents and/or caregivers.

Here’s an additional article on the subject.


Free Replay: 21st Century Parenting Webcast

Our 21st Century Parenting Webcast, on managing your child’s behavior, provided insights on a wide range of questions – from separation issues to sleep troubles to struggles with organization to setting limits on use of technology. Relevant questions for parents of children from toddler to adolescent make this a helpful program for anyone.
You can replay of this event any time you want, and as often as you want.

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The webcast was hosted by GlobalCast MD, and featured child development specialists from Hanna Perkins and The Lippman School. It was held at Hanna Perkins Center on Oct. 6, 2014.

The wisdom and continued relevance of Mr. Rogers

In 1969, the legendary Mr. Rogers made a legendary appearance before the Subcommittee on Communications. His goal was to lobby for continued funding for the Corporation for Public Broadcasting. In the process, his words about the inner life of children nearly brought an initially skeptical Sen. John O. Pastore to tears.

Those words are as relevant today as they were then. Perhaps more so:

“If we can only  make it clear that feelings are mentionable and manageable, we will have done a great service for mental health. I think it’s much more dramatic that two men could be working out their feelings of anger – much more dramatic – than showing something of gunfire. I’m constantly concerned about what our children are seeing…”


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